The Not So Convenient Truth About Rebirth

Things to Keep in Mind When Making the Decision to Change Your Life

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Spring is a common season to desire change. To want to change everything about life and ourselves quickly. As everything begins to come up and grow, we want to make some changes, enjoy personal growth and learn to love life again. However, this can quickly get frustrating if we do not have the right mindset.

The mindset that enables growth is patient. It embraces one idea for change at a time. It sees that change through a single lense. It realizes that there is no need for a marathon in order to see results. It also rejects the idea of changing everything at once.

The mindset that enables growth and change also does not keep a timeline. It allows for small discoveries and many a’ha moments throughout the days and weeks.

The truth is, there is no miracle pill to make life change. You must work at it steadily, day by day, area by area. The key is not giving up. When developing habits, it can take weeks for things to change. In fact, that is when you realize that you are serious about change. When you show up every day to do the things you must to see improvement.

Start by doing an evaluation. What makes you the happiest? What do you want to change? Write everything down that you can think of. Then narrow it down into habits and goals. Know that quick change is not beneficial. It won’t stick. Focus on one until you master it. Then keep working while incorporating the next thing.

I recently read “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod (a book that is a worldwide bestseller and takes about 6 months to be able to obtain a copy on Libby- the library app). He suggests 30 days to form a new habit. This new habit has three stages, each lasting 10 days.

The first one is where things are hard. We can get so excited about seeing a change that the first few days are absolute bliss. After the high of trying something new wears off, the next couple days can be the hardest. You’re not sure of how to implement this routine or change.

The second stage is where things get a little easier. You’re beginning to find your rhythm. You’re beginning to realize that this is getting easier. The hardest part has already passed.

The third stage is for cementing. It feels easier and better. Once 30 days are up, that habit begins to gain hold in our lives.

This is true for any habit or change. However, we often overcomplicate by trying many different things will detract from reaching this point.

When you realize you desire change the most, realize that it will take time. Rebirth is slow. It’s a commitment. It’s taking on one thing at a time until we realize that it has become a part of our lives.

Changing our lives can be one of the best things we ever did. We try new things in the process of rebirth. 30 days is often enough to see what really sticks and get to question our commitment to the change along the way. By the end of 30 days, we know and have implemented each step. The rest is to be determined by us.

What is it that you want to change this spring? Do you want to become a morning person, eat healthier, become someone who reads for 30 minutes a day, or just take on a challenge that makes you stronger emotionally?

Each step will build along the way. Embrace slow change. It’s the best way to get to where you want to go from where you are currently.