Make a Self-Love Bucket List for 2020

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As we sit down this week to dream, plan and finalize our New Years Resolutions, where does self-love fall on that list? What would happen if we spent an entire year practicing radical self-care and self love? To say yes to the things we love and allow ourselves to say no to the things that don’t speak to our hearts?

The idea of a yearly bucket list is not new. Day Zero, the site that created the 101 Things in 1001 Days has encouraged people to make and complete a list of 52 Things in a given year for years.

Since at least 2017, there have been lists of x amount of things to do before year x. However, today, I’d like to propose making a different kind of bucket list.

This list does not have to have a set number to it. I encourage at least 24 things (two things per month) but the number is irrelevant. This list captures the heart of self-care.

What do we want to do within the next year? What new forms of self-care do we want to practice? Do we have things that we did over the last year- just for us- that we want to repeat? What do we want to learn about ourselves this year?

Taking the time to be intentional about learning about ourselves and practice self care sets us up for success. It sets the ground work for the other relationships we have in our lives. It helps us to recharge and refuel for the demands placed upon our schedules. It serves as a way to help us through the seasons of life that we are currently facing.

Ten Ideas to Get Started On the List:

  1. Develop a morning routine. This does not need to be a massive time commitment or an overbearing practice. Often, the things that the soul really craves are simple in nature. A few minutes journaling, reading or just making that first cup of coffee while watching the sunrise and prioritizing our day all count as morning routines.
  2. Keep a compliment journal. Sometimes we all need a boost. The purpose of this journal is to encourage when we have days that we feel less than. The things we place in this journal can be compliments we give ourselves (I really handled that situation well) or compliments that others give ourselves.
  3. Be in nature. There is a connection between our inner selves and nature. Nature often makes us feel more calm, serene and closer to a larger force. Being in nature fosters happiness and creativity.
  4. Say No to At Least Five Things. Our schedules are full to the point of often overflowing. Give yourself permission to say no to at least five things this year that do not light you up.
  5. Make a playlist. Whether this is a personal pump up list or a list of songs that capture the things that we go through in the course of the year. Music connects directly to the soul. It also inspires and encourages us.
  6. Take yourself on a date- get all dolled up for a night on the town or just hang out in your favorite local spot to reflect and write the things you know and feel.
  7. Do a 30 day challenge based on what you enjoy. This year, I’ll be participating in at least 1 30 day photography challenge and NaPoWriMo (writing a poem a day). 30 day challenges are long enough to get a solid start on a daily practice.
  8. Try a new hobby. This does not have to be fancy or expensive. What is one thing you have always wanted to try? Put that on the bucket list and give it a go.
  9. Give yourself one splurge. This will depend on your interests and passions. A set of fancy pens could be a splurge. If you’re a writer, it’s also a great way to invest in the tools of the trade that you enjoy doing so much.
  10. Learn something that interests you. Whether that means learning French for no reason other than passion or learning how to make something that you will use daily and cherish. Learning keeps us growing.

Ultimately, it comes down to practicing self love. What are the things that you want to bring forth for 2020 in your personal life? What are the best ways to take care of yourself first this year?

Use a piece of that planner to prioritize self love. It’s a decision you won’t regret.

This story is published in Romance Monsters, a new Medium publication that focuses on changing the way we look at romance by breaking the stigma and being real about love.




Writer, wife, lifelong learner. I write about personal development, emotional wellness, relationships and lifestyle.

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Writer, wife, lifelong learner. I write about personal development, emotional wellness, relationships and lifestyle.

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